Parent Guide

Rules that work

Overview

Less conflict, more guidance

Rules work better when children help create them. Few, clear principles are more effective than a rulebook.

The 3 Basic Principles

The foundation for working rules

1
Negotiate together

Children who help create rules are more likely to follow them. Explain the "why" – not just the "what".

2
Few, clear rules

3–5 basic rules are enough. Too many rules lead to confusion and resistance.

3
Valid for everyone

Parents are role models. If phones at meals are taboo, that applies to everyone.

Screen-free Zones & Times

These rules have proven effective in many families

No phone during meals

Meals are family time – without screens.

Devices out of bedroom at night

Smartphones charge in the kitchen or hallway – not next to the bed.

Last hour before sleep screen-free

Blue light disrupts sleep. Better: reading, playing, talking.

Homework first, then screen

Clear order prevents discussions.

Car rides under 30 min without screen

Short trips are a chance for conversations.

Screen Time Recommendations

Guidelines – not rigid limits. Quality matters more than quantity.

0–2
As little screen time as possible

Exception: video calls with relatives

3–5
Max. 30 min/day, accompanied

Watch together and talk about it

6–9
Max. 1 hour/day

Clear times, clear content

10–12
Max. 1.5–2 hours/day

More responsibility, but with guidance

13+
Agree together

Gradually more responsibility

Family Media Contract

A written contract makes rules binding. Everyone signs – including parents.

Download media contract

Develop rules together?

In my courses, you learn how to develop rules with your family that really work.

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